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September is Baby Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

You thought your love life was settled. You found the right partner and figured this was it! But suddenly there’s a job change, or some family crisis and one of the two of you has to move or travel. For Baby Boomers with aging parents, and today’s climate around job security, saying “no” to the distance issue may not be an option.

You and your partner are determined to make your love last — but can love survive when it’s a long-distance relationship?

Guest Author, Mike Sandy offers some advice.

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How to Make it Work – Long Distance Love

Guest Author Mike Sandy

Trust is a Two Way Street

Distance can wreck even the most stable of relationships. The emptiness of not knowing what your partner is doing at any given moment can give way to jealousy and possessiveness. Without trust, relationships are doomed. Each party must demonstrate fidelity and reliability. Being scrupulously truthful is the only way to build trust in a long distance relationship, because your partner isn’t there to check up on you, and both of you know that.

Did you promise each other to call at a certain time? Do it, no excuses. Do you have a virtual date planned for Friday night? Don’t come up with pretexts for being unavailable. If you find yourself in a precarious situation, apply the litmus test: would you be upset by your own behaviour if the roles were reversed? If the answer is yes, then you are on dangerous ground. Trust is a fragile thing, but it can also be a strong web that holds a long distance relationship together. If you can trust each other on the small details, then the bigger issues are easier to build on.

Feel the Love

Couples in long distance relationships have to work extra hard to be demonstrative. Those that make the distance work show their feelings constantly and unequivocally. You have to compensate for the fact that you can’t be affectionate in person. Say ‘I love you’ often, and not just in those three simple words, express your love in other ways too. Share your triumphs and tragedies with each other. Write love letters. Laugh together over an online joke. Send a card, letter, or a gift. Be creative and think of the little things your partner would appreciate. For example, send them a mixed CD with songs that remind both of you of specific moments spent together, or a photo taken at a recent event, or even a piece of cloth that has the scent of your perfume on it. Physical reminders of your love and of each other will bring both of you closer.

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Are you a Baby Boomer thinking about jumping back into the dating game? I’m sure you’ve heard all the reasons not to. Well, the heck with that. In this guest post, personal love coach, author Sandra Rohr, debunks all those myths about being too old, fear of getting your heart broken, you’re sure to be disappointed!

If you want to get back out there – go for it. It’s never too late to follow your heart.

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Tool Old for Love? 5 Myths About Starting Over Again After 50 Debunked

Guest Author: Sandra Rohr

Recently, I met with a woman who has an interesting story. It seems that she and her husband have been separated for many years. They have gone through almost all the steps of the divorce, and there remains only one step to finalize the divorce: taking the signed documents to the judge to pronounce the divorce final. And the interesting thing is that she has held onto those documents for 2 ½ years! She – and her husband – have lived in limbo for 2 ½ years!

As she told her story, she began to sort out the reasons for not completing the divorce, which is that she is 59 and fearful about re-entering the dating/mating scene.

“I’m just too old! And I don’t know anything about dating anymore – it’s just been too long! Everything has changed!” She was nearly in tears as she told her story.

She was stuck in one of the 5 deadly myths about being a mature age and starting over in love.

Myth #1: It just can’t happen.

It’s not true that a life of love and intimacy is only for the young and beautiful. All it takes is that one person, and using the laws of attraction, you can draw that person to you.

Myth #2: I don’t know enough.

Sure, the dating scene has changed since you were a teen, but the people you are likely to want to date – people of your own age – were born and raised in your era. This means that they learned to date for the first time just when you did, so they will have the same understanding of how to date and relate as you do.

Myth #3: I’m too old to start again.

And as for those things that are different now, in spite of the tired cliché “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” you can learn all you need to know about dating in this decade. In fact, your maturity and life experience will help you to learn all you need to know – and very quickly.

Myth #4: I will just get my heart broken.

Actually, I can’t promise that this won’t happen, but I can promise that you will recover, and that you will learn from the experience. Life is risky, and when we put ourselves out there with the intent to love, we are vulnerable. But the alternative is to live a shriveled half-life. And you can learn how to date consciously so that you can balance your head with your heart in your relationships.

Myth #5: Love now could never be as sweet as it once was.

This is surely one of the biggest myths. Falling in love at any age feels just the same as it did when we were 16. Humans never get too old to feel that zing! And the sex, even with our aging bodies, can actually be far better, far more fulfilling than when we were young.

Like a fine wine, life and – more importantly – love can become more wonderful because of – not in spite of – aging. There is a desert wine known as late harvest wine. This wine is created from select grapes that are left to hang on the vine late into the season; the grapes are affected by Botrytis – the “noble rot” – that causes them to become dry and shriveled on the vine – and highly concentrated with sugar. When harvested by hand, pressed, and fermented, these grapes produce a sweet, luscious, honeyed, nectar-like wine. Late harvest love can be as delicious and satisfying as this wonderful late harvest wine.

So go for life. Go for love. Drink deep from that sweet, luscious, honeyed, nectar-like cup! It’s never too late for love, and it’s worth any risk!

And when you’re ready to go for the joys of late harvest love, you’re invited to visit http://YourPersonalLoveCoach.com – from singles and relationship coach Sandra Rohr. You can also sign up for my free 5-day e-course, Posting a Winning Profile to the Internet.

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September is Baby Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Are you a Single Baby Boomer over 50, looking to get back into the dating scene? Looking for that road to romance? Have you tried the matchmaking scene? Don’t know where to begin? where to go?

Today the focus is on Dating After 50, our target is for the “mature” reader. Guest author, Randy Hough offers some great tips for the single Baby Boomer — things you should have in mind before you head out the door!

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Best Secrets For Dating After 50

Guest Author: Randy Hough

Have you ever seen women in their 50’s who discovered the love of their life and wondered how this was done? Here’s the little known, closely kept secret that could change your life. (It’s easier than you think when you know this secret).

You must have noticed that some women keep ending up with the wrong guy, and seem to keep repeating the same mistakes? One thing for sure, it does not have to stay this way. There are ways to get what you deserve and find genuine love and happiness.

It took a long time, but your kids are grown (more or less!), and you have some time for yourself, you can think about dating after 50. Or 40, or 45! Dating after 50 is much different and very often, far better than when you were young and naive.

Now that you have matured, so have your expectations and hopes. You realize that one person can never fulfill all your dreams and longings. Now you know that you are responsible for your own happiness and personal development. If dating after 50 is going to happen, you have to take some kind of action, even if it is in baby steps, you have to get moving. Nothing happens until something moves.

It is always fascinating to hear how people meet. Some people seem to have met by destiny, others met totally randomly. Then again, others were actively searching and still others were caught by surprise! C’est la vie! When you consider all the people in the world, you should be able to meet that special person who is your soul mate; and you can and will, if you truly believe you will.

Secrets for dating after 50

Secrets for meeting people for dating after 50

Using dating services?
Regardless of how unique you are, you can find a dating service that fits your needs perfectly. Some sites cater to Chinese speakers, Christians, sports enthusiasts, etc. For dating after 50 though, eHarmony is the best.

Why does eHarmony work so well? By the time you get to be 50, you probably know who you are and what you want. With the eHarmony method of creating your profile, your matches fit very well. This saves you countless hours of checking out photos and profiles and sending emails.

A very important benefit is that the matches are real. We have all probably heard stories of frustrated people who were shocked when they learned how different the reality was from the profile!

Your time is valuable, so is your heart. Going on date after date after date takes it’s toll on you. As you start using these tips, or secrets, you should be able to meet your soul mate and fall in love. Just make yourself ready and take action steps, even if they are small. Dating after 50 can be the best!

Randy Hough

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September is Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Throughout the month of September we focusing on all kinds of relationships for Baby Boomers: Romance, dating, marriage, divorce, workplace craziness, communication skills (silent and otherwise), even relationships with your best pet. We welcome your ideas and comments, and if you wish, send us an article to add your perspective on this ever fascinating topic.

Today the focus is on Dating for Baby Boomers. Guest author, Jane Van Velsen offers some great tips that you should have in mind before you plunge in to the dating scene.

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Dating Tips For Baby Boomers

Guest Author: Jane Van Velsen

If you’re reading this you are probably in your late forties or fifties and considering a new partner. The reasons why are not important, what is important is how you approach dating again.

For many over forties re-entering the dating arena is scary. What we took as common place in our teens and twenties just doesn’t hold in today’s society and it’s wise to take precautions. Here are a few handy tips.

Tip One: Where to find the right match.

There are a myriad of dating sites but they come with their own problems. Not everyone online is honest about their intentions and, if you’re new to online dating you can easily fall prey to those who may not have your best interests at heart.

Look at your current social circle including family and ask yourself if they could introduce you to people – even just friends. Networking works and with today’s social media like twitter and blogs you could soon find yourself connecting with strong possibles.

Tip Two: Define what you want.

Do you really know what you’re looking for? Take time out and write down five of the characteristics you need most in your next partner like kindness, financially stable, mature. Each time you make a connection refer to your list and if the date doesn’t fit, move on.

Tip Three: Stop wasting time.

We’ve all read the book or seen the movie ‘He’s just not that into you.” Recognise the signs and move on. The longer you have ‘flotsam’ in your life, the more tied down you are and the harder it is to find the right partner.

You could trip over the perfect partner but not be in a position to get to know them if you’re still hanging on to the wrong one for fear of being alone or simply because the devil you know may be better than the one you don’t. Move on! Continue Reading »

For many Baby Boomers, reaching the middle years marks a plateau in romance. The early light and fires of passion have died down Hopefully they still smolder just under the surface of your life. You may be alone due to a break up or death of a partner. Just because you are getting older does not mean your life has to be lived alone. Whether you are single seeking romance, or in a relationship that needs a new spark… guest author Della Cory has some advice for spicing up your love life.

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Keep the Romance Alive – How Living In Can Spice Up Your Life and Keep You Young at Heart

Guest Author: Della Cory

All love stories don’t necessarily have to end with the ‘getting married and living happily ever after’ tag. Yes of course, there are many people these days that find themselves left alone again after many years of being happily married or in a happy relationship either because of the passing away of their partner or due to a divorce. Most unattached seniors who are faced with the sudden shock of being single and lonely again are either devastated or traumatized for life. If you have experienced any of this, then you don’t have to punish yourself by being lonely all your life. These days, more and more unattached, mature, independent adults are looking out for partners, as they are not ready to live lonely lives. Remember, never give up on love! Just because you are not young in age doesn’t mean you don’t have to be young at heart! Yes, life is a roller coaster; you’ve got to ride it, and enjoy it!

Whoever said that ‘living in’ was only something that the young folks did? Nowadays, there is an increasing number of older, more mature and independent couples who have turned to ‘living in’ to add that extra spark and romance to their relationships. Yes, building and maintaining a relationship is definitely not an easy task. Even after years and years of living together, most couples are still struggling to deal with their differences that become more obvious since they are staying together. The key to keeping any relationship alive is patience.

For years now, people have looked down on this whole concept terming it as a sure shot way to kill the passion and romance in any relationship. Despite all the controversies surrounding this whole concept of living in, couples that have been in such relationships will tell you that living together can indeed keep the passion alive. Have you ever asked yourself if it is humanly possible to keep the romance alive in a cohabiting relationship? Although it can be quite challenging, it isn’t impossible. Like anything that is valuable and precious, it takes patience, time and loads of attention to create a magical relationship if you’re living in with the love of your life. But, like everything valuable, it doesn’t come easily. You have to work hard to create that magical effect.

Myths will have you believe that the day-to-day routine of living with your partner can be mundane and boring. On the contrary, these day-to-day routines can help build intimacy instead of destroying it. That is only if you make time to be caring and intimate with your partner on a daily basis. From dealing with your partners little quirks and idiosyncrasies to making these same idiosyncrasies endearing to you, a live in relationship can be very fulfilling and gratifying.

Here’s what a live in relationship can do to add that little spark to our lives:

When you think of it, life hands us joy in different shapes and forms. It is entirely up to us to appreciate and savor these little pleasures.

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