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September is Baby Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Are you a Single Baby Boomer over 50, looking to get back into the dating scene? Looking for that road to romance? Have you tried the matchmaking scene? Don’t know where to begin? where to go?

Today the focus is on Dating After 50, our target is for the “mature” reader. Guest author, Randy Hough offers some great tips for the single Baby Boomer — things you should have in mind before you head out the door!

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Best Secrets For Dating After 50

Guest Author: Randy Hough

Have you ever seen women in their 50’s who discovered the love of their life and wondered how this was done? Here’s the little known, closely kept secret that could change your life. (It’s easier than you think when you know this secret).

You must have noticed that some women keep ending up with the wrong guy, and seem to keep repeating the same mistakes? One thing for sure, it does not have to stay this way. There are ways to get what you deserve and find genuine love and happiness.

It took a long time, but your kids are grown (more or less!), and you have some time for yourself, you can think about dating after 50. Or 40, or 45! Dating after 50 is much different and very often, far better than when you were young and naive.

Now that you have matured, so have your expectations and hopes. You realize that one person can never fulfill all your dreams and longings. Now you know that you are responsible for your own happiness and personal development. If dating after 50 is going to happen, you have to take some kind of action, even if it is in baby steps, you have to get moving. Nothing happens until something moves.

It is always fascinating to hear how people meet. Some people seem to have met by destiny, others met totally randomly. Then again, others were actively searching and still others were caught by surprise! C’est la vie! When you consider all the people in the world, you should be able to meet that special person who is your soul mate; and you can and will, if you truly believe you will.

Secrets for dating after 50

Secrets for meeting people for dating after 50

Using dating services?
Regardless of how unique you are, you can find a dating service that fits your needs perfectly. Some sites cater to Chinese speakers, Christians, sports enthusiasts, etc. For dating after 50 though, eHarmony is the best.

Why does eHarmony work so well? By the time you get to be 50, you probably know who you are and what you want. With the eHarmony method of creating your profile, your matches fit very well. This saves you countless hours of checking out photos and profiles and sending emails.

A very important benefit is that the matches are real. We have all probably heard stories of frustrated people who were shocked when they learned how different the reality was from the profile!

Your time is valuable, so is your heart. Going on date after date after date takes it’s toll on you. As you start using these tips, or secrets, you should be able to meet your soul mate and fall in love. Just make yourself ready and take action steps, even if they are small. Dating after 50 can be the best!

Randy Hough

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September is Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Are you a Baby Boomer in business for yourself? Are you part of a larger enterprise that serves the public? How do you build and keep great relationships with your clients and customers?

Today the focus is on Customer / Client Relationships and the Importance of Clear Communication. Guest author, Jeanne Yocum offers some great tips that you should have in mind before you create that next message!

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Care for Your Customers with Good Writing

Guest Author: Jeanne Yocum, Tuscarora Communications, Ltd.

As a consumer, how many times have you received written communication about a product or service that was confusing or even incomprehensible? A friend recently received a newly formatted utility bill with no accompanying explanation. She told me that the bill was so unlike the company’s previous communication that it took her a while even to realize what it was! In contrast, another company that was also updating its billing format sent an advance notice with a complete explanation of what to expect, including a sample bill.

Which company made a better impression? And which company probably received a flood of calls from confused customers who were unable to interpret their bills?

Clear written communication is a must for good customer service. Sending customers murky messages will lead to higher volumes of calls to your busy customer service staff. The final outcome: frustrated customers and overloaded front-line workers.

In today’s hectic world, customers are inundated with information. Wasting their time with confusing messages is not an option if you want to have a reputation for good customer service. Here are ways you can assure that your company puts its best foot forward in its written communication:

•  Become familiar with readability tests. The Flesch Readability Test, for example, involves counting syllables, words, and sentences in a paragraph and then putting the numbers into a formula to come up with a readability score. Years ago, when I worked for a large insurer, the state mandated that we apply the Flesch Test to our insurance policies. Yes, the test was tedious, but I quickly found that it was teaching me the fundamentals of readability—short words, short sentences, and short paragraphs. Now, even years later, I regularly think back to the Flesch Test when I’m editing copy. It’s amazing how many unnecessary words can be cut out of nearly any first draft!

•  Consider a specialized writing course. Information Mapping, an international company based in Waltham, MA, helps professionals in all types of organizations master the skill of making complex information easy to understand. Several friends who have participated in this training program are among the clearest communicators on paper that I know. To learn more, visit www.infomap.com.

•  Understand that different mediums require different writing techniques. The Internet, for example, requires a whole new way of writing. Because people scan when reading on the Web, messages should be approximately half as long as they would be in a letter or brochure. Key words should be highlighted and bulleted lists used wherever possible. Sun Microsystems’s Web site contains an excellent tutorial on how to write effectively for your Internet audience; check it out at http://www.sun.com/980713/webwriting.

•  Test drive your customer service message. Something that may be crystal clear to you may make no sense at all to customers. This happens because it’s all too easy to forget that you are privy to important background information that your audience knows nothing about. Of course, it is critical to involve your front-line workers so they can provide guidance and prepare for any questions. In addition, it makes good sense to test your message on a few people outside of your organization. See what questions they have. These are the same questions that are going to come into your customer service lines!

You fight hard in the marketplace to get customers. Take extra care when communicating with them and you’ll be sure to keep them for a long time.

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Jeanne Yocum ‘s writing services include business proposals, book proposals, books, bylined articles, marketing materials and Web sites. Her Web site is http://www.yourghostwriter.com, and she may be reached at Jeanne@yourghostwriter.com.

September is Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Throughout the month of September we focusing on all kinds of relationships for Baby Boomers: Romance, dating, marriage, divorce, workplace craziness, communication skills (silent and otherwise), even relationships with your best pet. We welcome your ideas and comments, and if you wish, send us an article to add your perspective on this ever fascinating topic.

Today the focus is on Dating for Baby Boomers. Guest author, Jane Van Velsen offers some great tips that you should have in mind before you plunge in to the dating scene.

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Dating Tips For Baby Boomers

Guest Author: Jane Van Velsen

If you’re reading this you are probably in your late forties or fifties and considering a new partner. The reasons why are not important, what is important is how you approach dating again.

For many over forties re-entering the dating arena is scary. What we took as common place in our teens and twenties just doesn’t hold in today’s society and it’s wise to take precautions. Here are a few handy tips.

Tip One: Where to find the right match.

There are a myriad of dating sites but they come with their own problems. Not everyone online is honest about their intentions and, if you’re new to online dating you can easily fall prey to those who may not have your best interests at heart.

Look at your current social circle including family and ask yourself if they could introduce you to people – even just friends. Networking works and with today’s social media like twitter and blogs you could soon find yourself connecting with strong possibles.

Tip Two: Define what you want.

Do you really know what you’re looking for? Take time out and write down five of the characteristics you need most in your next partner like kindness, financially stable, mature. Each time you make a connection refer to your list and if the date doesn’t fit, move on.

Tip Three: Stop wasting time.

We’ve all read the book or seen the movie ‘He’s just not that into you.” Recognise the signs and move on. The longer you have ‘flotsam’ in your life, the more tied down you are and the harder it is to find the right partner.

You could trip over the perfect partner but not be in a position to get to know them if you’re still hanging on to the wrong one for fear of being alone or simply because the devil you know may be better than the one you don’t. Move on! Continue Reading »

September is Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

Throughout the month of September we are going to focus on all kinds of relationships for Baby Boomers and the wild tangents that spring from that center of interest: Romance, dating, marriage, divorce, workplace craziness, communication skills (silent and otherwise), even relationships with your best pet. We welcome your ideas and comments, and if you wish, send us an article to add your perspective on this ever fascinating topic.

On this fifth day of September the subject is friendship. And if you’re a woman, and you have friends  in your life, it’s likely you’ll live longer. Honest!

Guest author Kare Anderson, shares some fascinating results from recent scientific studies.

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A Clue to Why Friendships Enable Women to Live Longer

By Kare Anderson

Letting down one’s guard. Chatting. Getting to know each other in comfortable ways. These are not frivolous activities for women after all.

Scientists have long known that having close relationships – even simply social contact – leads to living longer. Until now they did not have proof as to why -especially for women. One clue comes from the chemical reaction to social closeness – even with strangers.

What happens, for example, when women who are strangers to each other are put in a situation where they are encouraged to talk or collaborate? Their progesterone and cortisol levels go up.

How does this affect their behavior? In a recent study women were divided into two groups, one with no encouragement to interact. The other group was given just 20 minutes of an activity that encouraged conversation – such as playing a cooperation-based video game. (I can’t wait share this with my women’s group).

Remarkably, even in that short a time, that second group, with the elevated hormonal levels were more likely to:

• Have reduced chemical levels of stress and anxiety in their body.
• Say they would risk their lives for their partners in the experiment.

Reading this, some may be tempted to take a medical shortcut and take progesterone.

But Dr. Steven Park, a professor at New York Medical College, warns, “You need it in the right doses. And it has to be in the right balance as estrogen in the body. The easier path to better progesterone levels may simply be by making it a point to connect with friends and family more often.”

Kare Anderson is speaker and coach on profitable collaboration, Emmy-winning former NBC and Wall Street Journal reporter, author of Resolving Conflict Sooner, Moving From Me to We blogger and co-founder of the group blog Ugluu; What Makes Us Stick Together.

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September is Boomer Relationship Month on midlifejourney.com

For the next twenty-nine days we are going to focus on all kinds of relationships for Baby Boomers and the wild tangents that spring from that center of interest: Romance, dating, marriage, divorce, workplace craziness, communication skills (silent and otherwise), even relationships with your best pet. We welcome your ideas and comments, and if you wish, send us an article to add your perspective on this ever fascinating topic.

On this first second of September the subject is relationship trouble: Guest author, Bob Alexander gives some very practical advice for those of you who discover your relationships are not always picture perfect.

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How to Know If You Have Relationship Trouble!

Guest Author: Bob Alexander

If you’re in a relationship, you have relationship trouble! It may not have reared its ugly head lately, but it’s there! One moment you have no clue that there is a problem and the next you’re blind sided by your spouse or significant other wanting their space.

There are volumes of books and acres of relationship training classes somewhere, but I haven’t used them. Instead I’ll draw on my experience in troublesome relationships as a basis for the following information.

Relationship trouble can slip up on a person, male or female. You may not have realized it yet, so I’ll show you some things to watch out for. I’m speaking from the male point of view, but they could just as easily be applied to the opposite sex.

Two people simply cannot co-exist without some kind of friction that bubbles to the surface when you least expect it. If you’ve reached that point, here are a few things watch out for:

You know you’re in trouble when she no longer laughs at your jokes, no matter how funny they are to you. There was probably a time when a burst of laughter showed how much she appreciated your wisdom and insight, but now all you get is a roll of her eyes. You may also get a tired look of acceptance indicating that she’s stuck with hearing the same old lame jokes.

Of course this could be an indication of a deeper problem that can only be fixed by seriously considering possible cures. Marriage counseling is always a good thing, even if only one of the participants wants to go. Many marriages have been saved when one reluctant partner is brow beaten into joining the discussion, only to find that they’re the ones who get most out of the counseling session.

You know there are serious problems in your marriage or relationship when she stops listening to the old music that meant so much to you both back when you first discovered each other. Now she’s decided that she likes rap music, something that you can’t stand.

If you think she plays it loudly just to annoy you, you’re probably right, but countering this maneuver with a country song blasting over the radio, “You’re Gonna Miss Me When I’m Gone” will not win you any points in the relationship battle. Get some help!

In most cases music is a balm to the heart, but there are exceptions. A radical departure from the status quo means there is a larger underlying situation that hasn’t been resolved. Strive to communicate again with music that you both like.

One of the great things about having a spouse or girlfriend who you really love, is the ability to share exciting things with them, even if it’s a bad joke. When that desire stops by either of the parties, it’s a really bad sign that something is amiss.

Sharing means communicating excitement in the good times and bad. If the urge to rush home and tell your spouse about something fantastic you’ve seen has gone, then you need to wake up, see if she feels the same way and then go get some help!

Bob Alexander is well experienced in outdoor cooking, fishing, leisure living and has survived a one time fling with marital discord. Bob is also the author and owner of this article. Visit his sites at:

http://www.warningsignsofabreakup.com

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