Jul 19 2009
The Importance of Friendship in Midlife
One of the “realities” that hit me when I finally made it to midlife, is how important it is for me to have good friends in my life I can count on.
Having family nearby, or not further than a phone call away, is important. For many of us, family is a “given.” We don’t choose the family we are born into, though we may choose how close we remain to that “given” circle as we grow older. But we do choose the friends we keep close by.
I am fortunate to have many good associates— partners in business, social circles, and networking groups. I call and count on them often as I work and enjoy life. I have many of these circles. They don’t necessarily interact with each other. I kid my friends that the first time they will meet each other will be at my funeral.
… I’ve been thinking of purchasing a retirement home, but having a hard time selecting a location. I hate the cold of the northeast winters, but mind the humidity of the southeast coastline in the summers. Luckily, I have friends in both locations and for the past few years have spent time in the “on seasons” in both. Of course, there is always Montana and the fabulous Glacier National Park—but I don’t know anyone nearby… and there is Kansas, or Mississippi – but that too won’t work as I do not have friends or family in either location.
My choice for where to locate for the second half of my life will be determined by friends and family, no matter where I land.
Perhaps I should make a list of all my relatives and friends, hire a small RV and travel from person to person, spending just a few days in each place. If I work it right I could make the rounds over and over again, just paying for gas and the occasional thankyou dinner out. A true traveler! Of course, I would probably have to give up my day job, focus on just blogging and live off the kindness of others. Do you think it’s doable?
It's doable as long as fort myers is on the itinery!couldn't do without your visits-just want them a little longer.!!!!!!midge
I often think of relocating to St. George or Moab Utah. Everytime, I research my options, the same thought keeps rising in my mind –> All my closest friends and family, those who truly care for me and with whom I enjoying spending time, are east-coast habitants – with no inclinations to visit, let alone relocate to the West. Maybe your RV suggestion is the way to go. I'll consider it.